Are you wrestling with God?

It breaks my heart to see so many people still resisting God.
He loves us. So much. All of us. Yes, even you.
I've been there. On the losing side of the war. I've resisted. I wrestled with all that I have. 
And when I gave up, guess what? I WON.....

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I was you. The one who wanted things my way; the one who fought my way through arguments; the one who let my anger and temper take over; the one who wanted nothing to do with God.....


I was you. The one who hated someone more than anything;  the one who did something that seemed so unforgivable; the one who was always frustrated and never satisfied...
I battled hard. Suffered severe anxiety. Hit rock bottom only to find, it was the Rock I needed all along. 

2 Samuel 22:2
And he said: “The LORD is my rock and my fortress and my deliverer;


I finally threw in the towel and stopped fighting. I took a knee, surrendering my life to One who CAN and WILL and HAS forgiven me.  Even the unthinkable sins.

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Now, there's no more anger. No more hurt. No more hatred. No more guilt. All the weight of the years of countless sins has been lifted. Peace. Comfort. Joy.... I can breathe.....

John 3:16

 For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life.

That means everyone. Even YOU.
Stop resisting Him. Yield to His Spirit. Ask Him for forgiveness. Turn from your sin. Follow Him.
He is full of mercy, grace and love.  He is gentle, patient and so faithful. You will not feel defeated. You will feel victorious! The battle has already been won. Jesus became our sin and died on the cross, taking on the wrath of God so we won't have to.


Your sin does not define you. Your sin is not your identity. Your past is not who you are.  Let. It. Go.

Praying for every one of you reading this, that you will let go and give your life over to Christ.

Think. Before. You. Speak.

My friend Melissa from LifeWithLissy.com wrote an interesting and much needed article about the way people prejudge a large family.  Basically, people think that if you have more than 2 or 3 kids, you live off of the government, you are always busy and overwhelmed and you can't possibly be a good mother to "all those children".

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Well I am at the other end of the spectrum with no kids, yet, (Lord willing) and I have the same problem of too many people telling me how to live life and knowing what's best for me.   For the record, saying things like "You're not getting any younger" and "what are you waiting for" are kinda personal and frankly,  rude to say to someone.  You don't know everyone's situation or reasoning.  Some women don't announce their pregnancy until a far enough stage and you may be asking someone who just had a miscarriage, why they haven't had a baby yet. Think. Before. You. Speak.
 That doesn't mean you should jump to conclusions of fertility issues, marital issues, financial issues, or that you need to keep telling them how wonderful babies are.  I'm pretty sure everyone knows that babies are a huge blessing from the Lord.

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I've heard it all:
"You would make such a great mother you should really start having babies"   
" You are so great with kids, why don't you have any?"
"Does your husband not want any kids?"
"You know you are 30 now...."
"Well if you ever have kids you'll understand what it is to really love" ~YUP, they went there! 
And the list goes on..........................




 Either way, lots of kids or no kids, we never have the right to push our offensive opinions onto people or tell them what we think they need to know about their own life. Ultimately, it is the Lord's plan for our lives and whether that be 10 kids or none, He is in control and always has our best interest in mind. 


For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Jeremiah 29:11

It's amazing to me when you are really aware of something the Lord is putting in front of you.   For the past week I have been coming across scriptures, hearing from people, or reading online the same message over and over. Here's what I learned am learning: It does not matter what we want, need or plan for our lives. If it is not the Lords plan, it will not work. Period.  It's that simple. Now if only my brain would register this daily, life would be so much easier.

Here's how it started. Hubby and I are trying for our first baby. Exciting!! right? well, yes however the more months that go by, the more excitement turns to frustration. We have not been trying too long, less than a year and believe me I know that is not very long compared to some. But, I have been praying every day that the Lord blesses us with a baby. I have been holding these verses close to my heart for months: psalm 37:3-7a

Trust in the Lord, and do good;

Dwell in the land, and feed on His faithfulness.
Delight yourself also in the Lord,
And He shall give you the desires of your heart.

Commit your way to the Lord,
Trust also in Him,
And He shall bring it to pass.

While I was reading this again the other night, my bible referenced me to Psalm 145:19~
          He will fulfill the desire of those who fear Him;


I was so happy to come across this and thought, When I have baby, then I'll be so happy! 


During this past week after realizing several times that my plan will never work if it is not the Lord's will for me, I came across this:
For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also~ Mat.6:21


And I thought, where is my treasure? Is it only in the hope that I will have a baby? Shouldn't my treasure be in the Lord, honoring Him? Willingly following Him in obedience, and treasuring the fact that I will spend eternity with Him? 


Yup! there came the wave of strong conviction and tell you the truth, it has helped me SO much! I then, in this last week alone, came across these 3 verses: 
James 4:13-15
¹³ Come now, you who say, “Today or tomorrow we will^[a] go to such and such a city, spend a year there, buy and sell, and make a profit”; ¹⁴ whereas you do not know what will happen tomorrow. For what is your life? It is even a vapor that appears for a little time and then vanishes away. ¹⁵ Instead you ought to say, “If the Lord wills, we shall live and do this or that.” 


Proverbs 19:21
Many are the plans in a person’s heart,
    but it is the Lord’s purpose that prevails.


Proverbs 27:1
Do not boast about tomorrow,
    for you do not know what a day may bring.


See the pattern? I think the Lord is trying to tell me something and guess what? I finally got the message!
He loves us so, so much and has our best interest in all He does.  It doesn't matter what I want or hope for. I need to listen to Him and delight myself in Him. He is so faithful and loving towards us all. He knows the desires of my heart but He also knows His entire plan for my life. I don't. If it is the Lord's will for me to be a mother, I will. If not, I will faithfully trust and love Him still! His tender mercies are always upon us. His greatness is beyond compare.

Psalm 145:1-3
I will extol You, my God, O King;
And I will bless Your name forever and ever.
² Every day I will bless You,
And I will praise Your name forever and ever.
³ Great is the Lord, and greatly to be praised;
And His greatness is unsearchable


Every day! I will praise Him every day, forever and ever! Not just when I think things are going my way. I looked up the definition for unsearchable and it says, unable to be clearly understood.  We can't even fathom just how great the Lord is! 


So, while I still desire to have a baby, my perspective has changed and perspective makes a huge difference! I am praying for a baby still, but praying that I would have a baby if it is the Lords will for me.  I am sure some days will still be hard and frustrating but, I know in my heart I will never be disappointed if I trust in Him. 



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The Good Wife's Guide: BOOK REVIEW

If you’re seeking true joy with long-lasting results, it can only be found by building virtue upon faith. That's where you'll find fulfillment, and that's where you'll find your true purpose in life.~Darlene Schacht- The Good Wife's Guide: Embracing Your Role As A Help Meet



I was absolutely thrilled and so blessed to be able to read and review this book. I have loved the ministry of Time-Warp Wife and have found so much encouragement from author Darlene Schacht.  Darlene is like a fountain of encouragement and wisdom overflowing into the lives of so many woman every day. I love how through her book and her blog, she always refers back to scripture.  I never have to wonder if what she is saying is biblical or just her opinion because she always follows it with scripture.


Scripture isn’t a candy bowl by which we pick and
choose our favorite words hoping to satiate our
palette. It’s a well-balanced diet of truth which is
difficult to swallow at times, but nevertheless it
brings nourishment to our soul.~ Darlene Schacht- The Good Wife's Guide: Embracing Your Role As A Help Meet



I grew up in a broken home raised only by my mother, who is a christian and raised us up in the Lord, but I never was able to see the role of a "help meet".  When I first saw The Good Wife's Guide, I knew I had to read it and that it would be just full of biblical encouragement and structure on how to serve my husband. I love the way Darlene expresses her heart in this book.  She is such a great example. She covers some topics that are considered "hush-hush" topics in our society today such as SUBMISSION.  I love her honesty on this subject and how she pulls her beliefs directly form the bible.  I love what she says here:
 Submission doesn't mean that we’re weak-minded,
feeble, or frail. It means that we’re empowered by
choice, and that we’re dedicated to esteeming others
higher than ourselves. ~Darlene Schacht

Do we really understand what submission is and what it actually looks like? I think it is so important for us to understand biblical submission and what biblical marriage looks like. As a young wife just getting my feet wet in my almost 5 years of marriage, this book has been such a great help.  We are planning to have children, Lord willing, and I know I will be referring back to this book for years to come.  Now this eBook is available in print and I think a copy should be given to every bride-to-be as a wedding shower gift.  True values are being lost in this world and "The Good Wife's Guide" is full of the values I hope to teach my children someday.  Being that my parents are divorced and the enormous divorce rate of our country, it is so refreshing to read about someone who has been married over 20 years and bases her values right out of God's word.  Darlene is truthful and loving in all her words.

There are also some great tips on housekeeping along with a schedule, organizing tips, house cleaning recipes and I love her idea of hanging specific scriptures in specific rooms of the house.  This book challenges us as women and help meets to search scripture, to serve our husbands and to do it all with a willing and loving attitude.


Do nothing out of selfish ambition or
vain conceit. Rather, in humility value
others above yourselves.
~ Philippians 2:3



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