Monday, June 18, 2012

Think. Before. You. Speak.

My friend Melissa from wrote an interesting and much needed article about the way people prejudge a large family.  Basically, people think that if you have more than 2 or 3 kids, you live off of the government, you are always busy and overwhelmed and you can't possibly be a good mother to "all those children".
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Well I am at the other end of the spectrum with no kids, yet, (Lord willing) and I have the same problem of too many people telling me how to live life and knowing what's best for me.   For the record, saying things like "You're not getting any younger" and "what are you waiting for" are kinda personal and frankly,  rude to say to someone.  You don't know everyone's situation or reasoning.  Some women don't announce their pregnancy until a far enough stage and you may be asking someone who just had a miscarriage, why they haven't had a baby yet. Think. Before. You. Speak.
 That doesn't mean you should jump to conclusions of fertility issues, marital issues, financial issues, or that you need to keep telling them how wonderful babies are.  I'm pretty sure everyone knows that babies are a huge blessing from the Lord.

I've heard it all:
"You would make such a great mother you should really start having babies"   
" You are so great with kids, why don't you have any?"
"Does your husband not want any kids?"
"You know you are 30 now...."
"Well if you ever have kids you'll understand what it is to really love" ~YUP, they went there! 
And the list goes on..........................

 Either way, lots of kids or no kids, we never have the right to push our offensive opinions onto people or tell them what we think they need to know about their own life. Ultimately, it is the Lord's plan for our lives and whether that be 10 kids or none, He is in control and always has our best interest in mind. 

For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Jeremiah 29:11


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